I know that this entry is probably going to piss a lot of you off, but I’m going to be honest. And I think it’s relevant.
I’m a member of an online dating site. (One reader of this blog actually found me on there!) Personally, I don’t think I’ll have time to go on another date until well after the election, but I keep my profile on there, just in case.
I received an odd message from a guy today. Here are a few excerpts:
“your in my [list of matches] and what not, I feel somewhat compelled to “accept” you rather then reject you like the previous 15.”
“Anyway, if you like to “drop it like its hot” or “get low” then your in luck cause i do 2 and so far no one has been able to drop it lower then me (Shorty gets quite low)”
“have a good night
oh and if i didn’t mention it, i think your hot
I’m not going to reject a potential suitor based on poor grammar and/or spelling alone.
I’ve dated my fair share of guys who couldn’t write anything to save their lives. And some of those relationships were the most significant relationships of my life so far.
But on an online dating site, when a message to somebody serves as the best way to make a good first impression, why would a guy write so badly?
Would you have bad grammar and spelling in a cover letter? In a resume? Then why would you on a dating site?
I think that a message so full of errors — written by a college graduate (so his profile claims) — shows that he doesn’t care about making a good first impression. He doesn’t care about taking the time to write “you’re” instead of “your,” among other things. Come on. That is the MINIMUM. Everyone knows the difference.
I wouldn’t have gone out with this guy anyway — he’s not my type. But this email more than sealed the deal.
I replied to him:
Hi, [Name] —
Thanks for the message. I don’t think that we would be a good match, but you deserve a reply, and I wish you the best of luck!
Unleash your fury. Call me a snob or an asshole. I don’t care. But do any of you feel this way?